I love my mother. She's done some pretty amazing things for me. I have no doubt that her intentions are good and that she means well. But she drives me UP THE FUCKING WALL sometimes.
My Pekingese is high-maintenance. He has major allergy issues. He has to be coned when he's not being supervised because he will bite himself bloody. He has to have allergy shots once a week. He has to take oral steroids twice a day. He has to eat a very special canned diet that consists of fish-and-potato, because chicken and beef will make him itch so horribly that he'll scratch and bite himself until there are lesions all over his entire body. Before we figured out what was wrong with him, I, the least domestic girl on earth, pricked my fingers sewing a makeshift cover for his body out of an old t-shirt so he couldn't get at himself. I found him little booties for his feet so he couldn't scratch himself. I am constantly monitoring him to measure his level of itchiness and adjust his medication accordingly. I am constantly coning him if I know he won't be supervised for more than an hour, because god knows my parents can't be trusted to cone him reliably. When we had a faulty screen door, I had to campaign to put up a metal fence around it so he couldn't push it open and get hit by a car. Because his breed is prone to overheating, I have to make sure he's not outside on a warm day for more than a half hour and that he has water even for that short time. One time my mom let him out too long and I had to wipe his face with a cold washcloth to cool him down from the brink of heat stroke. Every second of every day that I am in my house, I am aware of where my dog is, how he's doing, and what, if anything, I need to do to make him feel better.
I don't expect praise for this. He's my dog. It's what I'm supposed to do. What I
do expect is not to have to deal with my mother shoving her nose in it. I feed him when he will eat. Period. At this point in time, he will eat at 7am and 9pm. If you try to feed him earlier or later than those times, he's either too excited or tired to be interested. He eats at these times without fail. He is the correct weight, to the ounce. If he has an outbreak, it will be handled within minutes. And yet, she has the fucking NERVE to lounge on the sofa and go "did Grissom get fed?" Or, worse yet, "Aww, Grissom, I know you're hungry," in a faux-sweet, passive-aggressive voice that makes me want to smack her. I have to smile politely and say "No, mother, it isn't 9 yet," because I know from, oh, I don't know, TWO YEARS of this that if I take him into the kitchen at 7 or 8pm, he'll lie on the floor and ignore the food. The constant bullshit guilt-tripping is annoying as hell, but I've put up with it.
I will
not put up with what happened tonight, however. I will not be told that I'm "making a mistake" by feeding him at a time that SHE doesn't think makes "sense." I will not have my behavior governed by someone who whines "Honey, will you feed Yuri?" half the time to my DAD when it's time for my other dog to be fed, because she's too lazy to do it her fucking self. I will not answer to "I don't think he likes the food" because he won't eat it at the hour of the day that SHE thinks a dog should/would. I will not defend myself against baseless accusations that I'm doing anything less than my very best to secure the welfare and happiness of my dog, from someone whose role in his life is to play with him and occasionally take him to the vet if there's something serious.
Back. The Fuck. Off. On what planet do you have
any right to say
anything about it?